Friday, November 26, 2010
Sunday, November 14, 2010
I moved to California and it’s been a torrid bubbly love affair ever since, no matter where I’ve lived or traveled. If you are my friend and you own a hot tub, know that we are not friends just so I can crash your jacuzzi every once in a while, but it doesn’t hurt.
Bally’s Total Fitness, I was greatly dismayed when they closed some clubs a year ago to help their bottom line. They closed the one near where I work, which made dealing with daily traffic, cubicles and hours under florescent light far less appealing. That club had a 25 yard pool (which unfortunately is rare) and a huge hot tub. And the culture of that gym was geared more toward weight lifting, so there weren’t a lot of swimmers – score! Now I’m down to just one club in my area with a full size pool for lap swimming… and hot tub.
Since I completed WSI last Christmas, hot tubs at Bally’s have not been the same. Before, I sat in there to warm up before starting my laps. This year due to either laziness or fatigue (or both), I’ve been soaking up those hot jets for longer and longer every time I get in. Sometimes I won’t even do any laps, but just close my eyes and do the rotisserie thing – lie on my back for a while, then roll over to my front with my head in my folded arms, then repeat every few minutes. Oh yeah. This is water done right!
Once relaxed, I’ll poke my head up, feeling better, but not wanting to get out. Instead I’ll just watch other people swim. And here’s where my life has been changed forever. It used to be that I didn’t care how other people swam. I just cared that they got out of the pool so I could have the lane, thank you very much. But now I watch and I analyze. What are they doing?
- She’s either afraid to put her face in the water or her hair in the water. I wonder if anyone's ever worked with her on that?
- Oh I see his problem. He doesn’t think the water can support him, so he’s thrashing his arms from one end of the pool to the other. It's so exhausting that he has to rest for minutes at each end.
- You know, her stroke would be so much better if she stretched her arms and glided like a swan. What’s the rush? I could teach her how to do that.
- Hey muscle man, stop boxing with the water! This isn't Taekwondo.
Of course, I never say these things out loud, but I want to. I want to walk over and say, “Dude, let me help. I can help.” But that’s hard. Most men would tell me to butt out. Plus the dumbest thing in the world to do is make a guy uncomfortable who works out regularly and with whom you share a locker room. And with a woman, how do you not make it sound like a bad pickup line? What they’d hear is, “Hey baby, let me show you how to stroke.”
So until I get a swimming instructor job, I’ll just keep my mouth shut, my body in hot water and my thoughts on swimming. But hey, if you know of a part-time swim instructor job opening, I live in the Boston North Shore area. And I won’t even insist that the pool have a hot tub. But it wouldn’t hurt.
Friday, October 29, 2010
|Mid-City YWCA in 1954 (before I was born)|
But the other class or really group activity at the Y that we availed ourselves of was the ski club. Now being an African American kid on the ski slopes in the late 60's and early 70's meant that I was more than a minority - I was a super minority. I could have worn a cape. I was so rare on the ski slopes that the only way I could have been more of a minority was if I came down the slopes playing hockey and carrying a golf club... wearing a yarmulke. Unbeknownst to me at the time, I probably caused a few cases of whiplash. “Whoa, is that kid lost?”
We didn't go skiing every weekend in the winter. We couldn't afford it. Even back then skiing was expensive. There were the lift tickets, the rental of boots, skis and poles, then the gas to drive from the city to what ever northeast ski resort was within a 4 hour radius. The closer the better. People don't generally think of New Jersey as a Mecca of downhill skiing - and it isn't. Think Atlantic City with a vertical drop; a small vertical drop. Those aren’t bare patches, those are top soil pylons; this is the Garden State. Just go around ‘em!
From about age 10 to 13, five or six times a year I would go with my mom on YWCA ski group trips to Elk Mountain, PA, Big Bear, NY, or some cheesy hill in New Jersey. Hey, if we could afford it, we would go. Sometimes I would go without her, just me and some kind woman skier from the Y. And at that age I didn't even care that I was spending the day with a cute single young woman with a car. All I cared about was going down hill fast, catching some air on the moguls, and doing it as many times as I could before the time and the calories from my multiple flattened peanut butter and jelly sandwiches ran out.
I stopped skiing when I was 13 because... who knows why. Perhaps it was because my mother stopped working at the Y and dropped down from working two jobs to just working at her full-time school district social work job. Perhaps it was because my interests drifted to skateboarding, or math & science, or swimming. Or perhaps it was because I was more interested in paying attention to all the girls who were ignoring me. One of those.
I didn't ski again until I was 17. I was a senior in high school and on the swim team. The competitive swim season
Imagine a couple bus loads of black teenagers from the city, at the base of a mountain of barely frozen water, getting fitted for boots and skis. "Hey, has anybody ever done this before? I never skied before. How do you walk in these things." Keep your mouth shut, Kevin. You're just the geek that swims. That's how they know you. Just be cool. Ok, perhaps you could just suggest one thing… "Try carrying the skies until you get to the snow."
"Yeah, a couple times, a long time ago. It's been years, really. So long ago that I doubt I remember how."
That was the juiciest half lie I had ever told. It's true that it had been years - about 4. Did I remember how to ski? Hell yeah! What's to forget? Stand up, point the skies down hill, snowplow all the way down with a little Jean-Claude Killy ain’t-no-big-thang slide turn at the bottom. Hell yeah! "Hey, Kevin's skiing!" It took an hour to get back up through the rope tow carnage and down I went again, with two bus loads of classmates staring at me, the geek. Now it is true that the cooler and more athletic of my classmates did eventually get it. And hats off to them for learning to snow ski in a downhill water ski zone. But I was the only student who really knew how. True, I discovered that I wasn't the only person who knew how. I think it was an assistant principal who went down faster than lightening. Clearly he was one of those noble animal ski slope people who actually pay real money to ski in the winter – on actual snow.
Since high school I've only skied once or twice. It's fun, but just way too expensive. When I finished grad school and got a job, I took my kids skiing for a day. Spent a fortune! More than I had ever spent on an outing with them. I recently saw an ad for a masters swim club in my area, where you pay for a membership for 4 months at a time. Each 4 month period costs the same as taking my kids skiing for just 3 days. Damn that’s a lot of money! And it’s just for me. But sorry kids, this one I might do. So if you want to ski again, start saving!
|It's not a magic toboggan. Come back|
in the winter when there's snow.
Sunday, May 9, 2010
On Saturday May 1, 2010, just over a week ago, a collar connecting two pieces of a water supply main broke in Weston, MA. The numbers associated with this failure are impressive: 64 million gallons of water was lost, 30 communities equaling 700, 000 households or some 2 million people were affected. We were told that the water was unsafe to drink and we had to boil it for at least one minute before drinking it. The stores suddenly became barren of bottled water. People panicked. The unofficial “man on the street” opinion was that it was going to take weeks to fix.
In Connecticut I bought a case of 6 gallons of water at Costco, because why not. If this was going to be weeks, then let’s get this party started.
By Tuesday, the water main was fixed and the water was tested safe. We had to run the cold water in the sink for a minute and run the hot water for 15 minutes – though a couple warm showers I think also did the trick.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
The other term that came into use around the house was “awesome.” And to be fair, popular media as well as the cultural influence of the area was to blame for this one. “Awesome” meant yes, or all right, or that would do, or thank you. “Hey, can you pass the salt? Awesome.” But there was no awe in this awesome. All of the natural authentic awe was replaced by a cosmetic stand-in awe, expressed only in the tonality in which the word was delivered. “That was AWESOME!” No that was just salt. Get over it.
Few things are actually awesome. If one has a personal experience with their creator, that might constitute as awesome. Seeing a child born, especially if it’s your child, most especially if it’s your grandchild, that could be described as truly awesome. Ask any grandparent.
Water is awesome. Sip it and it will give you life. Harness it and it will support life. Ignore it at the wrong time and it will take life away. Here are some examples.
I’ve started on a new diet. One of these popular ones that includes a hell of a lot of exercise and a particular form of eating. The diet makes sense. For the most part it doesn’t make unreasonable demands and it explains the reasoning behind its tenets. One of those tenets has to do with drinking water – massive amounts of un-carbonated water. I like to swim in it, shower in it, and sit in a hot bubbling soup of it, but drinking a lot of it is hard for me. If I successfully start to regularly drink a half gallon of water per day, I will be filled with awe between my frequent trips to the bathroom. Though I do occasionally employ the whinny form awe, that being aw. “Kevin, put down the coffee and drink some water.” Aw!
From spending so much time at the beach, I’m used to the power of waves as they barrel into shore, finishing their reach onto dry land with a thin film that glides over the sand until it stops and recedes. The waves are gentle and almost predicable. We lay bets on whether a sand castle will stand up to repeated thin gliding reaches of the waves. But when those waves are inspired by seismic activity way out in the ocean, it is another matter. I always envisioned a tsunami as a giant wall of water hundreds of feet high that hits the coast and wipes everything out in one fell swoop. But that’s not the case. That’s not water’s power. Nature does not have to be big to be powerful.
Instead, a tsunami is a scaled up version of that thin film that glides over the sand. But in a tsunami, the water glides in and just doesn’t stop. Instead of receding, it proceeds, forward, inward, picking up whatever is not anchored to the ground, as well as many things that are – or were. The power of water here is not just that it can destroy and kill, but also that it delivers perspective; a special form of vision that gets overshadowed by the desperation and fear the event triggers in the citizenry. Perhaps for the first time, one might see how close to sea level they live and work, and how tenuous their coexistence is and always has been with the ocean, river, stream, lake or damn. Water has a way of quickly communicating its relationship with your life and sometimes that relationship is not good.
Water inspires real awe. Nothing cosmetic about it.
Sunday, March 7, 2010
For me, Wildwood was about two things, beach and boardwalk. The beach held us in its arms during the day and the boardwalk at night. The beach was sand, sea shells, sea gulls, ice cream vendors, the hot hot sun that baked us to cinders, and an ocean that didn’t know how to stop blessing me with salt water and waves. I was there to body surf. And for this skinny 10 year old kid who loved being in the water, the waves and I danced in and out all day. It was great. And every late afternoon when the family would drag itself back to where we were staying, it was shower time. Because half of the seashore was stuck to our skin and swim suits.
There were a few different places we stayed during the Wildwood years, but mostly we stayed in the attached bungalow of Rose Marie Manor – a small motel owned by a friend of the family. I think the bungalow had 3 bedrooms, two upstairs and one down, plus lots of floor and couch space for various older teenagers. What I had forgotten was that the motel had a pool. I don’t remember ever going in it. Why would we? The beach was just a 4 block walk away. Of course we walked there loaded down like dessert camels with beach bags, chairs, umbrellas, and the kitchen sink. We never drove to the beach. The matriarchs saved all year for the lodging, not the parking. Please! “Oh, that’s highway robbery!” my mother would say.
My mother was a swimming instructor and life guard, my aunt Jane was a swimming instructor, and everyone else in my family swam. It wasn’t coincidence, it was the law. Whenever we took any family trip that involved an overnight stay, having a bathing suit was like carrying an ID – don’t leave home without it. Because whichever matriarch planned the trip made sure there was a pool.
My older sister was the first in our family to go to college and for the first three years she went to school in rural PA. But she spent her senior year internship in Flushing, NY; to which the family response was, ROAD TRIP! The Holiday Inn in Flushing had an outdoor pool, so when the weather was warm, we were off to visit Sharon. I don’t remember how many of us were on this trip. It was probably only 8 – it felt like 80. I’m sure we had multiple rooms, but I can only remember us in one. And because it was my family, I know there was a coupon or discount somewhere in the mix. First day in the hotel, it was time to go in the pool. We could see it from our hotel window. There were people sitting around the edge in lounge chairs, a few people in the water splashing and diving. That’s where we belonged.
Our motley crew arrived down at the pool – bathing suits, towels, two certified instructors and all deep water swimmers. Everyone turned and looked. And as we got in the water, everyone else got out. At first we thought, that was odd. Where’s everyone going? It eventually hit us, Oh right, they don’t want to swim with black people. Oh well… more pool for us! And then we proceeded to have a good time in “our pool.” But that wasn’t just a Flushing, NY thing. It happened in pool, after pool, after pool down through the years. All hotel pools became our pools. Sometimes we’d just clear the pool, other times we’d take out the entire pool deck. It was a running joke in our family; “Time for us to go clear the pool.” And we would, without ever saying a word to anyone.
We got so used to having every hotel pool to ourselves that the first time it didn’t happen, when the white people didn’t get out of the pool when we got in, we thought there was something wrong. Wait… Hello!… Aren’t you supposed to get out now? Damn racial progress.
My family is scattered now, so it’s unlikely to see us together at a pool anymore. But whenever we talk and the topic of swimming comes up, invariably someone says, “Remember clearing the pool?” Yep, in every place but Rose Marie Manor, just 4 blocks from the beach.
Saturday, February 27, 2010
Last year I was at the gym sitting in the hot tub – I LOVE hot tubs – and I was watching an older gentleman also in the hot tub as he watched a young man swimming laps in the pool just a few feet away. The older gentleman was probably in his late 60’s, was rather thin and wearing a Speedo. I’ve noticed that older guys don’t wear Speedos unless they wore them for a legit reason when they were young. And they wear them now whether they’re in the same shape they were in 30 years before or not. Gut – what gut? Sometimes that Speedo of today has an awning it didn’t have during their younger athletic days.
The younger man doing laps was in his 20’s and was chugging along freestyling at pretty good clip, doing fast open turns at the walls and an occasional flip turn – lap, after lap, after lap. The older man stared at him with a fascinated look and I wanted to know why.
When the younger man stopped, the older man said, “Hey, so are you a triathlete?” “Yeah, how’d you know?” the younger guy asked. “You’re breathing.” “Oh yeah, on both sides? It really helps,” said the younger guy.
The older I get, the more I see how much of life comes down to breath. I knew of that thing the younger guy was doing – bilateral breathing. I read about it. But man I wish I could do that. My regular right hand breathing seemed so comfortable. Why should I learn another way to breath?
When I first learned to use a mask and snorkel, I found the whole practice was mostly about breath. If you’re in the ocean, you can distract yourself with cool things to see, but when I’m in the ocean or pool, my mind is focused on my breath. What it sounds like while I’m forcing air in and out of a plastic tube, how I continue breathing even with the occasional intake of salt or chlorinated water, what it feels like to hold my breath when I dive below the surface, how much force I need to blow water out of the snorkel when I resurface. Snorkeling is not about swimming, it’s about breath.
When I learned SCUBA, I had to relearn to breath and control my breathing no matter what. “Never hold your breath – always breath,” my instructors would say. Completely surrounded by water, exploring a strange new world that you are just visiting at best, SCUBA claims to be about fun and safety. But when you’re down there with your life strapped to your back, everything you see is silent and the only thing you hear is the rhythm of your own breathing. Be calm – in and out. SCUBA offers a level of inward focus that would be helpful on dry land. Because down there, when you get excited, you hear your life rhythm change and it engulfs you. Be calm – breath.
During WSI training the instructor said, “OK, now I’d like to see you breath every third arm stroke. Bilateral breathing. It makes you swim balanced.” He said it as if to say, of course you know how to do this and have been doing it for years. So go do it. With the image of the young man at the pool in my head, I just did it. I did it! Another hurdle of WSI overtaken. I can breath balanced!
One might say, So what? Everybody does it. What’s the big deal about breath? The most common thing is also the most precious. Perhaps it’s for more than the obvious reason that if we don’t breath we die. We are made of breath. When we don’t breath, we reject who we really are. There is that bible verse in Genesis that says, “…the LORD God formed the man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.”
We are more than flesh, we are made of sacred breath. Being in water helps remind us how important that is.
copyright 2010 Kevin Brooks
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Jr. Lifesaving was supposed to be a stepping stone to Sr. Lifesaving. And Sr. Lifesaving was supposed to be a stepping stone to Water Safety Instructor. Why? Just because. That was the ladder. You climb the ladder. That’s how life works. You climb the ladder until you’re happy. Happiness comes with altitude. God bless America.
I stopped at Sr. Lifesaving. I swam competitively in high school, which was a very weird transition for me. Playing in my favorite environment changed to going as fast as I possibly could until I was about to puke – in my favorite in environment. Fortunately I wised up in College. Or more accurately, in college I was attracted toward and distracted by other things. Dry land stuff mostly. I still swam, but nothing intense like racing.
On Tuesday, Dec 29, 2009 I finished WSI training at MIT. I’m finally a Water Safety Instructor some 34 years after I thought I was going to be. Not bad when you think about it. I did a few other things in the time in between. School, family, job, two cross country moves, more school, writing, performing… you know, the usual. But the point is that I did it. But why? Why did I need to complete WSI at my “advanced” age? I’ll tell you my reasons. First let me tell you my mother’s reasons.
My mother epitomizes the strong black woman. Born in the early 1920’s, she’s seen a lot of history – the depression of the 1930’s, WWII, Korean and Viet Nam Wars, JFK, MLK, RFK, burning cities, marches, 70’s hair, polyester, moon landing. We’ve been a busy nation and she’s been there. But it was back in the 1940’s when she heard of black people drowning. “Drowning!? They drowned? That’s just stupid! There are people lynching us, starving us, discriminating against us, and here we die from something completely preventable!?” She was indignant. That’s when she decided to be a swimming teacher. She’s also been on a tirade about one thing or another ever since.
Fast forward to the 1990’s. That’s when I met people that I thought were from Mars. You might think that would be cool, meeting an alien life form, but all I wanted to do was help them. “I don’t know how to swim,” they told me. What? Really? Or I would hear the kinder gentler form, “I’m not a strong swimmer” – which in self conscious proud adult terms often means “I can’t swim.”
Once a friend of mine asked me to teach her how to swim and I enthusiastically said, sure! I’ve been swimming for decades, I’d love to teach you, I said. Then I thought about it and realized that I had no idea how to teach someone to swim. I made a quick call to my mom. How do you teach someone to swim? She walked me through some steps. That was my first WSI lesson – it took all of about 60 seconds over the phone. No suit required.
I got in the water with my friend and started working with her. Then it hit me. “Um, you grew up in the Philippines, on an island. What do you mean you don’t know how to swim?” But she didn’t know how to swim, as is the case with a lot of island people here in the US. It then occurred to me that there are also a lot of young new parents who don’t know how to swim at all or don't know how to swim well. They celebrate the birth of this kid, then realize they’re screwed when they take that kid on vacation. They KNOW they won’t be able to avoid water-based trips - pools, the beach, lakes. How are they going to ensure their child’s safety in the water as they do on land?
So to you new non-swimming parents and to you islander immigrants out there, I’m here to help. Contact me.
(In a future post I’ll describe what it was like to be the oldest person in WSI class.)
Monday, January 11, 2010
Most of the work was in the pool and I ruled the pool. It was like a game. I’d go up to the drowning person, which in every case was one of the instructors pretending to be drowning, wait until they were docile or pretending to be docile, dive under water, come up behind them, get them in a chin lock position, reach around for a cross chest carry, position them against my hip and side stroke them to the end of the pool. Not bad for a 14 year old. I think I was about the best student in the class.
When I was 16 I was old enough to take Sr. Lifesaving. This was harder. It required study – book study. I had to read crap. I had homework from “real school” to contend with and now I had scintillating early 70’s Red Cross prose to hack through? It made no sense. Oh the pool stuff was mostly more of the same, with a few added skills thrown in. But the other people in the class weren’t 16 like me. They were old – in their 20’s and 30’s – ancient. They drove to class, in their own cars! They owned shavers. I didn’t even need one.